Deep down I think we all have high standards even if we don’t express these standards all of the time. I think these standards can reduce our self confidence if we aren’t acting in congruence with them. For the values that you treasure the most, it is extremely important that you live your life in those lanes.

For example, one of my values is honesty. I find that if I am living an inauthentic life, something inside of me starts becoming unsettled. This truth could be as simple as an incongruent career or not keeping the promises I make to myself.

I believe that when you run into someone that seems to have low standards, they have too little self confidence to make better choices and have let external influences determine their worth. 

^^^^^ I haven’t read any books about this particular subject, but it makes sense to me. Take it as you want it.